![]() But life lessons should be able to connect with those outside my social circle and might be something that others would be interested in reading. The funny and crazy stories might only connect with people who know me in real life. And I have shared the idea with a few friends and I think they agree that this is a better idea if I want to possibly publish the book. But just getting the lessons down and connecting which guys represent which story has given me a lot of clarity about what this book could be. I’ve only started working on this new version, so I don’t have much done. And having it about the lessons allows me to focus on that instead of the overall journey. It’s not about how I met my perfect guy, it’s about my experience dating. It would be great to have that story, but that’s not what I feel this book needs to be about. They can just be a collection of stories and what I learned about myself and it doesn’t need me to have a story that is about how I fell in love, got married, and had my happily ever after. But I feel like there is a great way to organize these lessons where it doesn’t require a specific pattern or even a conclusion. Some of the guys can be grouped into one lesson and some guys have multiple lessons. Not every guy I was writing about in previous versions of my book are life lessons, but many of them are. Even in the moments of pain and when someone breaks my heart, I am able to learn something from that experience and I want to believe that I am a better person because of those lessons. I know that dating isn’t always like this for people, but for me it really has been a journey in self-discovery. I’ve learned what I want, what I’m willing to tolerate, what I deserve, and what I believe. I’ve discovered so much about myself through these dating experiences. And while I feel like the crazy stories are fun and entertaining, the lessons I’ve learned are probably so much more important. But I also write about lessons that I’ve learned from the various dates and experiences I’ve had. Sometimes I do write general online dating posts on here and funny stories. And the inspiration kind of came from the blog posts I write about online dating. But I have inspired a little bit ago about yet another version of what this book could be and it finally doesn’t seem to require a real ending. ![]() But I haven’t felt the motivation to work because of the fear that until I know the ending that I can’t work on it. I stopped working on that book a little while ago although I have been adding notes about stories I wanted to include. Maybe when I finally finish it I will be with my forever person, but if I’m not I don’t want to feel like things are incomplete. Not everything has to end with a happy ending and I want it to accurately represent where I am in life. I would love it to end with the story of the guy I end up with, but I have no idea when that will happen and I don’t love the idea that the story needs to end like that. I have said since I started it that I didn’t know how it would end. I can make it up and I don’t have to depend on having more dates.Īnd I think waiting is one of the reasons I’ve been struggling with my original online dating book. ![]() I think working on a piece of fiction would be easier than something that is about my real life because I don’t have to wait to figure out what will happen next. I’m not feeling a huge push to work on it and I think I’ll probably use it for NaNoWriMo this year. I haven’t done much with the novel except doing a brief outline of what the plot points would be along with a few style ideas which are needed because of the idea I have with that book. Then I was inspired to work on a novel inspired by online dating (but it would be a work of fiction). I was so conflicted on which version I wanted that I had to stop working on it for a bit. I’ve been going back and forth on those two versions for a while and I never was 100% sure it was right. Then I decided I wanted to change that up and write the book chronologically because some of the stories only made sense when it was put into the proper timeline. I started with the book in 3 sections: guys I’ve gone out with that were decent people, guys that were horrible people whether or not I met them in real life, and the cheaters I caught. ![]() I’ve also written about how I’ve worked on different versions because I wasn’t sure if what I had previously done was right. I’ve written several times about the book I’ve been working on about online dating. ![]()
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